My last post created an
interesting conversation between my best friend and I. A person commented that ‘men
think about sex all the time’ and she really hated that idea. I asked why and
she explained that she simply thought it wasn’t true and that it was sexist. So
I decided that I should make a post to further expand on what her and I
discussed. I plan to cover three main ideas. Number One: Men think about sex
all the time. Number Two: Men will want to have sex with you even if you are
friends. Number Three: The repression of ‘manliness’.
First I will say that evolution
is used as a basis to ‘scientifically’ justify our culturally dramatic gender
stereotypes/ gender roles. I will say right now that this is bullshit. There
are differences between men and women but when compared to differences between species
or even individuals it is ridiculously, jokingly tiny. Evolutionary differences
when it comes to human intelligence are so small that you need hundreds of
people to have a significant difference of five seconds (I am taking
evolutionary psychology and have to write papers about this shit, if you wish
to challenge me make sure you bring studies). This whole “men have evolved to
be aggressive” is bullshit and doesn’t pan out in studies. It is cultural and
if you do not believe me take a look at Mead’s work with gender roles and
cultures. Hint: Not all cultures see dominant males and submissive females.
Hell, even western interpretations of which is the more sexual sex has changed
(during the times of the puritans women were too sexual and their excessive
sexuality made them weaker to the devil, not too long later and you have Victorian
England where women hate sex and men are the sexual creatures). Basically, I am
tired of seeing this bullshit assumption. It is sexist. It is stupid. It is not
true. Stop thinking it and stop using it to be the basis for an argument.
Evolution is meant to explain differences between species not why ‘women be shoppin’.
Topic One: Men think about sex all the time
On face value this is a
completely innocent comment. This issue is that it implies women do not. Let me
clear this up for you, women do. Studies have demonstrated that straight women
will become aroused from porn whether is gay or straight, while straight men
only become aroused from girl on girl or straight. I feel pretty safe then in
concluding that women get aroused easily. I know that I am and I really am not arrogant
enough to think that I am some sort of sexually frustrated goddess that needs orgasms
more than mere mortal females. Another problem with this phrasing is that it
implies that men literally think about sex all the time. If you are walking down
the street and you see nothing arousing or are thinking nothing arousing and
somehow spontaneously get a cockstand and are not a 13 year old boy, you may
have physiological issues. That is not normal. Seek help. If you just think
about sex when you see someone physically attractive, see depictions of sex or
notice that you have a penis. Congratulations you are perfectly normal!! Fun
fact: Women are the same way. Sometimes I’ll be chilling in my bedroom and
realize holy fuck, I have tits and
then I masturbate because I start playing with my tits. All perfectly natural
and normal, I assure you. I am just tired of men patiently explaining to me
that I don’t understand how they want to have sex all the time because I am a
female. Bitch, you do not know your life story. I masturbated in a field for
the hell of it and I would have sex in a movie theater because the idea amuses
me. I am down for sex pretty much any time or any place. Sex is awesome so most
people are like that. Just keep in mind that I am not unique from other women
because I want sex more or something crazy like that. I am different because I
am loud and have no shame.
Topic Two: Men will
want to have sex with you even if you are friends
Once again this isn’t unique. I
have not had sex with someone who wasn’t my friend and I would have sex with at
least like six of my friends right now. This doesn’t need to be explained. The
whole idea that somehow women put men in the friend zone and stop seeing them
as sexual creatures is stupid. Her wanting to have sex with you but being
scared of ruining the friendship that she values is a hundred times more
likely. Stop being bitter and tell her you think she is sexy and would like to kiss
her. She says no be a grown up and move on. Thinking that somehow women never
want to have sex with their friends or want sex with their friends less than
men is too silly.
Topic Three: The
repression of ‘manliness’
I have heard this idea from MRA
idiots. What exactly has been repressed about you by society? You realize that
society created the same constructs that it is repressing right? Instead of
being caught up in proper manliness try to be a good human being and try to be
yourself. If you feel the need to spit on the ground and scratch your ass
(repressed manliness?) then move in with some white trash. They do not care. If
by this you mean that somehow your sexuality is being repressed all I have to
say is what? How is it being repressed? If your idea of natural male sexuality
is slapping women on the ass or assaulting them I beg you to calm down.
Anyway
/rant
I've heard an argument that the act of being monogamous or at least "socially" monogamous actually did encourage the development of higher intelligence because it created complex social situations that people had to overcome, but this applied to both sexes as far as I could tell. That is not to say other forms of social structures did not have similar effects, but faithful monogamous relationships are rare in nature because it takes a lot of mental willpower to overcome the challenges associate with it.
ReplyDeleteI think it is equally difficult though whereas the stereotype is that it is hard for men and all women want it.
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